The Gift: It Keeps on Giving
I save memories too. I hoard them like treasures. Like Halloween candy. But I rely on my mind more than I should to preserve them. My mental snapshots need safer keeping than my brain will allow. Particularly the newborn memories, with their value in inverse proportion to the functionality of our gray matter during those weeks.
Thanks to Blog Antagonist, and her lovely essay (post seems an unworthy descriptor), The Gift, I am taking the time to write down more things. The little things, the ones not worthy of a blog post or even a personal journal entry, but maybe just a brief few words scribbled on a scrap of paper and tucked into a junk drawer or laid between the leaves of Thalia's half-finished baby book. I'm not always sure what I am saving these memories for. Maybe they'll appear here in some form some day. Maybe they're to share with family. Maybe they're just for me and Nate to laugh about in the dark when we have that odd, quiet moment alone.
Thalia dancing to the Backyardigans theme song.Sometimes it's funny moments I don't want to forget.
Licking slices of pickled ginger and saying "mmmmm, sushi."
Anyone playing baseball is is "Yankees!"
The hiccups, all the time.
The dragonfly that stayed on our window for three days. Thalia ran to look at it every morning until Nate explained "it flew home to its mommy and daddy." Of course it was dead all along.Or it's a list of those toddler misnomers--adorable really only when you catch them in person, and best left off the blog. Anything that in the retelling, might end with the disclaimer, "you had to be there."
Trying to explain pronouns. When she asks for the baby she says "hold it?" I tell her her sister is not an it. She thinks a while and says confidently, "Hold...HIM."
I told Thalia not to stick her fingers into her butt and then into her mouth. "Eat it," she said. No, I told her. Don't eat it. A pause. A devilish smile. "Liiiiike it."
A dragonfly is a dragontail.As in BA's situation, some of the memories come back at strange times, kicked from the cobwebs of my mind into clear consciousness for unknown reasons.
A birthday cake is a happy cake.
Parmesan is yummy cheese.
Or sometimes they come back because we now have a baby here again.
As different as Sage is from Thalia, she's the harbinger of recessed recollections. She's giving me a gift, a second chance to remember things about Thalia too. Like how shakes her head frantically side to side when she wants to suck on something. (Generally me). Or how her little gurgly sounds after nursing sound like heureux, heureux--French for happy.
I would hate to have lost those. And now I have them back.
BA put it so perfectly poetically as she always does: "These memories are kept in the slippery gray folds of my mind, just waiting for something to beckon them forth on tendrils of memory that are like fine silken threads; soft and slender, but strong. Substantial. Enduring."
And that's why she easily gets my nomination for June's Perfect Post.