The Mother's Day Gift That Keeps on Giving

I have been trying to make time to participate in Her Bad Mother's Great MommyBlogger Love-in. Truly I have. But between the Mother's Day festivities, the packing, the traveling, the working full-time, the blog reading, and...what am I forgetting? Oh right, the actual MOTHERING--it's been a little tough to squeeze in.

I feel like the one dorky friend arriving at the party just as everyone else is leaving, and saying, "whooooo! Let's get this party started! The Lizenator is here!" And you're all like, "Yeah, whatever. It's midnight you idiot and the party started at 7."

So here I am scraping up the congealed brie from what's left of the cheese platter, grabbing a warm beer, and begging you to stay. Just a little longer. For I too would like to share a few of my fav-or-ite things.

I need to start by saying I have a bazillion blogs on rss. That is the actual number. I counted once, and it took many hours. I do my best to read them as often as I can because each one, in its own way, inspires me, motivates me, makes me laugh, makes me think. If I ever comment on your blog then you know I'm reading you with some frequency. And let's just say, I don't read stuff that sucks. It physically pains me.

But since I can't possibly call you out each by name for the aforementioned reasons (and since so many participants in the Love-In have already done this so beautifully--one of the downfalls of coming so late to the party), I'd like to mention just a few very special blogs to me: My first loves. Those early reads/readers who got my site meter up to a good 10 or 12 hits a day. As I've said here recently, an audience, however small, is my heroin; it's the drug that keeps me writing day in and out. And these women were my benevolent dealers.

Rebecca was the first. I found her through the Crazy Hip Blog Mamas Mom of the Week. The site instructed me to leave a comment and so I did. And--surprise of all surprises--she commented back. It was like coming home to find a celebrity hanging out on my couch, reading my magazines. A real live Mom of the Week! A popular blogger--here! Writing to me! I am constantly awed by her writing, not to mention her headlines. I mean, come on-- Placenta: A Woman? It takes a Village, People? Brillllliant (delivered like Jon Lovitz as the Thesbian). And as someone I've now been fortunate enough to meet live and in the flesh, I can only assure you she's every bit as enjoyable in person.

Next came Mrs. Fortune. I immediately fell in love with her humor, her introspection, her wonderfully observational, stream-of-consciousness writing style, particularly as it related to her pregnancy. Her response to a bumper sticker advertising employment for one-ton diesel drivers: I was relieved to find out that in the (increasingly likely) event that I do pork up to 2,000 pounds, a job awaits. Good stuff. Wish I could take credit for it, like pretty much everything she writes.

Then came Kristen, my blogging soulsister and now business partner. A truly nurturing spirit, she actually took the time to email me a comment since dorko here messed up the commenting options on blogger. I can't imagine anyone who reads Mom101 doesn't read Motherhood Uncensored. In fact, I can't imagine that anyone who reads any blogs doesn't read MU. She's the next Dooce (you heard it here first, folks). She'll having you clutching your stomach with laughter one minute, and weeping the next. That's talent. And one day very soon I guarantee you'll be paying full price for it through Amazon. Get it now while it's free.

Next came Carrcakes, Binky, and StephanieRJ, a remarkably supportive trio, with enjoyable blogs to boot. Caroline seems so sweet and genteel, and yet is perfectly comfortable telling you how she farted in her anesthesiologist's face during labor. Binky is a novelist in the making and nearly any post of hers will confirm this. Stephanie was described by Izzy as being "like a perfect sweater, warm and cozy." I can only concur. I mean, the woman used to be in the Peace Corps. What I love about these three is that these are probably not women I would have met in the real world. But somehow we've found each other here and I feel both my life and my writing are richer for it.

Finally, I will always have a soft spot for Jenn, a real live fancypants playwright. Hers was the first blog which compelled me to go back and read pretty much everything she'd ever written. And then--ohmigodohmigodohmigod--she linked to a post of mine. I went from six readers to about sixty overnight, which is a testament to just high her blogging Q score must be.

I wish I could do more. But I'm jet lagged. And I have a beautiful sleeping baby in the other room with a restless leg in search of a head to kick all night.

Happy Mother's Day (again) everyone. Let's remember that we can all be nice to our fellow moms the other 364 days a year too.


Blogger Rock the Cradle said...

Hey there,

Better late than never, I say. And besides, spending the time pays off in great posts. And you have great posts. Even with a sleep deficit.

Thanks for spreading the first comment Karma on to me. Hopefully I'll have the opportunity someday to do the same for another first timer.

Cheers, and hope you get some extra naptime, O jetlagged one.

5/17/06, 10:58 AM  
Blogger Mother Bumper said...

Hey, as a girl who always shows up late for everything and will never judge based on time constraints (hello! we're moms! they're lucky we show up at all!) I'm just glad you got to join in the fun. I love your site and happy belated mother's day!

5/17/06, 11:15 AM  
Blogger T. said...

Well done! And you're not that late. Mine won't be up until tomorrow...

Good thing HBM is a patient, patient woman!

Have a happy naptime!

5/17/06, 11:16 AM  
Blogger Gina said...

Love this post and I agree on each comment on the talented women blogging out there so we can be entertained and inspired. I am in awe at how well you gals write...

5/17/06, 11:36 AM  
Blogger Her Bad Mother said...

There's no such thing as being late to this particular party. Even if I am slumped over by the stereo system cycling nostalgically through bad 80's compilations CD after bad 80's compilation CD, I will still lift my head up weakly, give you a big boozy grin, and slur 'come on in the party's fiiiiine...'

5/17/06, 11:55 AM  
Blogger GIRL'S GONE CHILD said...

Woooo! Great post and I'm loving the belated love. You are my hero and like mother bumber said, i'm always late. Um, isn't everyone? we're moms after all. we have mad shit to do.

Thanks for the link and thank you for finding me because then i found you and you are simply divine- an amazing read and mamacita.

5/17/06, 12:07 PM  
Blogger J's Mommy said...

Great post and you're so right about all the women you mentioned. I am so glad I tumbled into this mom/mommy blog thing and found all of you wonderful ladies!

5/17/06, 12:26 PM  
Blogger KathyB said...

Great post. Now I have a few new blogs to add to my morning routine between coffee and shitty diapers. :)

5/17/06, 12:32 PM  
Blogger toyfoto said...

Do you ever sleep, woman? You are going to be making sure none of US ever do. We'll all be too busy reading.

It's nice this sharing the love.

5/17/06, 12:42 PM  
Blogger jennster said...

SUCH a nice and thoughtful post!

5/17/06, 1:35 PM  
Blogger something blue said...

Oh the warm and fuzzy feeling that comes with all the love. You share some brilliant writers, much like yourself. It's nothing but the best of the best.

I love the fantastic pictures too. *gush*

5/17/06, 2:05 PM  
Blogger MommyWithAttitude said...

The bad thing about this is every time I discover a new blog I think DAMN IT, this is so great, now I have to read it too... and I already spend too much time reading blogs!

5/17/06, 2:12 PM  
Blogger Blog Antagonist said...

Great post, and yet more new blogs to add to my list. You people are sucking me in, damn you.

5/17/06, 2:30 PM  
Anonymous Melissa said...

I don't know girl, in my mind it's a tie between you and Kristen on who will be the next Dooce.

5/17/06, 2:56 PM  
Blogger Lisa said...

Yes, I do think YOU AND Kristin are on your way to ROCKSTAR status! You both do a tremendous job!

5/17/06, 3:30 PM  
Blogger Mel said...

Oh, man. I didn't even really realize this was going on, and now I have to do it, I have to.
Although I may never be a rock star, as you so richly deserve to be, you brilliant woman, you, I think I have a few fellow little-knowns I could point to.

5/17/06, 3:59 PM  
Blogger Mommy off the Record said...

Your blog is great so I know your picks must be awesome. I will check them out.

5/17/06, 4:10 PM  
Anonymous MetroDad said...

Those are some great blogging mamas, Liz. I haven't read a few of them so I'm looking forward to checking them out. And I have to agree with all the other commentors here. You are a rock star blogging mama yourself!

5/17/06, 4:10 PM  
Blogger Mel said...

Hey, here you go... since I named you as one of my inspirations, I thought you'd like to look it over.

5/17/06, 5:04 PM  
Blogger Piece of Work said...

I loved this idea, and HBM got so many people to participate, it's mind boggling.

Hey,I thought you'd want to know: now whenever I hear that song "YOu had bad day", I think of you.

5/17/06, 6:54 PM  
Blogger Mrs. Chicky said...

After reading so many of your posts I think that you would be one of the few people that could come up with a compelling enough reason to get me to start partying again at midnight. As long as you let me call you "Lizenator".

Great post, as always.

5/17/06, 7:37 PM  
Blogger Dawn said...

Huzzah, and enjoy your reunion with your baby girl!

5/17/06, 9:41 PM  
Blogger Binky said...

If I ever get off my ass and write a novel, I'll have to include you in the dedication. Your support really means a lot, not only because it is so heartfelt, but because you are such an incredible talent. You're like a blogging superhero using her powers for good, not evil ;) Thanks for that.

5/17/06, 10:09 PM  
Blogger movin'mom said...

Okay I am not sure of exactly how this got started and what the instructions or credentials are in being a part of this so I will just put my remarks here for you to read.

EVERYTHING you said about Rebecca with the exception that I have never read Rebecca's (but will now) is how I feel when I get home and see MOM101 in my comments. As If I were Erica Kane who waited years to receive an Emmy. Getting an email from you was more like that feeling you must get when Publishers Clear-house has knocked at your door! Your it for me sister, I applaud your writing, humor, and mom 101 experiences. BRAVO to YOU!!

5/17/06, 10:18 PM  
Blogger Stephanie A. said...

I was never one of those people who felt like there were never enough hours in the day unless it came to sleep. Now that I dig reading blogs, that has changed. I need an extra two hours, at least, just to get through all of the great writing out there. Thanks for these links. A couple I've already read, but I'm thrilled to start exploring the others, too!

5/17/06, 11:07 PM  
Blogger wordgirl said...

I've learned about SO many good blog sites from reading your posts. I include you in that last statement.

5/17/06, 11:38 PM  
Anonymous chelle said...

Awesome list!!
Hope you enjoy every moment with your baby!

5/17/06, 11:56 PM  
Blogger movin'mom said...

I have to back peddle a bit- I had no idea that Rebecca was Girl Gone Child. Been there - love it-
completely agree!

5/18/06, 12:43 AM  
Blogger Jozet said...

Awwww! That was a wonderful tribute! I always hang around too late at parties, anyway. I'm glad you decied to come shar morning pizza and warm Pabst Blue Ribbons with me.

I'm going to check out the links, but dang, you already mentioned a lot of my faves.

Happy Mother's Day...again!

5/18/06, 1:59 AM  
Blogger Catherine said...

I think I missed the party altogether! I SO need to get out more. But first, add me to the list of people who think the party hasn't truly started until The Lizenator's shown up. :)

5/18/06, 10:04 AM  
Blogger zeldafitz said...

Thanks for the excellent tips. I'm always looking for more inspiration (and procratination fodder). And I trust your taste implicitly.

5/18/06, 11:08 AM  
Blogger Carrcakes said...

This is so sweet. Somewhere between now and 2007 I'd like to write a similar post. I love that I have met you in the blogging world. You have inspired me to become a better writer and I enjoy pulling up a chair to your virtual dinner table every day when I read your blog. Thank you for the thought provoking posts, the laughs, and the tears.

And Liz, YOU have reached dooce status in a record amount of time and are to be commended. You are the dooce that writes back.

5/18/06, 11:23 AM  
Blogger Suburban Turmoil said...

Lovely tribute, Liz. And I agree with Carrcakes. YOU are the next Dooce! Although maybe you and Kristen could share the honor...

5/18/06, 11:46 AM  
Blogger Andrea said...

This was lovely. But I think this party will go on until everyone gets a chance to show up. We leave no one behind!

Thanks for your writing, your wit, and for sharing it truthfully. You're one of my favorite daily reads.

5/18/06, 1:10 PM  
Anonymous JGS said...

The way you write about Rebecca was exactly the way I felt when you commented on my site. I actually just said to myself, "I can't go to bed before I check on Mom-101." Isn't that wild that people think of you the way you thought of Rebecca???

Thanks again by the way, and thanks for the tips on others to read as well. If only I wasn't so tired, I could start now.

5/18/06, 10:42 PM  
Anonymous Nancy said...

It's so fun to read about the bloggers that we all love and why. Although it's going to make my rss feed list even more unmanageable than it is now. Ah well, who needs sleep, right?

5/20/06, 10:34 AM  

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